When you are hurting emotionally, it’s easy to be consumed with your own feelings. It’s much easier to despise the person (or persons) that hurt you, than it is to just forgive them and move on with your life. I haven’t felt this kind of hurt in a long time, but I stumbled upon a quote one day that said, “forgive those who have hurt you, for they were hurting too”. It made me think of those times where I was hurting. I never even thought about this, I was just blind with anger, self-loathing, sadness, and basically all of the feelings possible.
I don’t think this justifies someone’s hurtful behavior, but it is important to think about what the other person might be going through or feeling. If they are also feeling down, they are going to want to lash out. If you are both feeling crappy, you are just going to resent each other. Most friendships and relationships fail because of communication issues.
Let’s say you are in an argument and the other person says something you don’t want to hear. Fast forward a couple of weeks or a couple of months and you and that person no longer talk. You might be thinking that it is entirely the other person’s fault. Maybe, you also hurt them. You might have said something insensitive in the heat of the moment without realizing it. Or you didn’t register their feelings as valid. You don’t have to become best friends with that person, but being consumed with hurt and anger will only hold you back. You don’t even have to apologize, you just have to realize that you cannot hold onto that resentment.
I know we have all been told that, “you don’t know what someone else is going through”. This is so true though and so important to remember when you are mad at someone. Thanks for reading!
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